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How Can I Help My Toddler With Separation Anxiety?
My 2-year-old screams and cries when I drop her off at day care every morning. How can I help her adjust to being away from me?
– Liz
Most kids this age experience feelings of distress when a parent leaves them. These emotions usually stem from worries that a parent who leaves may never come back, and usually resolve once a child begins to understand the concept of time (that Mommy or Daddy will be back after lunch, for example).
As difficult as it may be, resist the urge to run back at the sight of tears or to have a long, drawn-out goodbye. Instead, establish a goodbye ritual that is pleasant and consistent, yet firm. Stay calm, and reassure your child that you will be back. Tell her when you will return in terms she can understand — such as after lunchtime.
Also, try not to leave your child when she's likely to be tired, hungry, or restless — this will just make her more likely to cry. Some kids do well with transitional objects that they can use for comfort while they're not with you — like a favorite doll or blanket.
For more information, check out these articles:
Separation Anxiety
Choosing Child Care
Larissa Hirsch, MD
Date reviewed: November 2006
Originally reviewed by: Email us.
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