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8 Questions You’re Embarrassed to Ask Your Gynecologist

Posted 12/8/2016 by UHBlog

Too embarrassed to ask your gynecologist questions about your sexual health? Let's talk.

8 Questions You’re Embarrassed to Ask Your Gynecologist

Women should never assume that ignorance is bliss when it comes to questions regarding their sexuality, anatomy and well-being.

“Most women feel uncomfortable asking their gynecologists about their sexual health,” says psychologist Sheryl Kingsberg, PhD. “Yet, having an honest discussion with your gynecologist can be vitally important to prevent or treat sexual problems. And, if your doctor does not initiate a conversation about your overall sexual health, you should feel empowered to do so yourself.”

Dr. Kingsberg answers eight questions that women are often too shy to ask their gynecologists.

  1. Do I look normal down there?
    “I blame the media for genital shaming by telling women they must have the perfect-looking labia, clitoris and vulva – even though there is no such thing as the ‘right look’,” she says. “Unless a woman is having pain or problems with the function of her labia, clitoris or vulva, more than likely these areas of the female anatomy are perfectly normal and healthy.”
  2. Why is sex painful?
    According to Dr. Kingsberg, when a woman experiences pain during sex, it's usually caused by an underlying medical reason, such as loss of estrogen levels at menopause or a vaginal infection.
    “Breast-feeding mothers and postmenopausal woman both have lower estrogen levels, which causes vaginal dryness and thinning of the vaginal tissue,” she says. “This pain can be helped short term by the use of vaginal lubricants during sexual activity or vaginal estrogens in the form of a cream, pill or long-acting vaginal ring. If your pain is persistent, you should see your gynecologist so he/she can properly diagnose the cause and recommend appropriate treatment options.”
  3. Is it normal to have vaginal discharge?
    Clear or milky white vaginal discharge in premenopausal women is a sign of good vaginal health. However, if the discharge changes color or has a foul-smelling odor, it can be a sign of bacterial overgrowth or a vaginal infection.
  4. Why is it so hard to have an orgasm with my partner?
    “About 75 percent of women cannot achieve an orgasm while having penetrative sex,” Dr. Kingsberg says. “Clitoral stimulation is key for most women to achieve orgasm. It's normal for women to have their most reliable orgasms with manual stimulation, oral sex or with a vibrator.”
  5. Does using a sex toy make me a sexual deviant?
    “No,” she says. “It's estimated that 51 percent of American women own a vibrator, which should help women recognize it is totally normal.”
  6. Can older women enjoy sex?
    “The end of a woman’s reproductive life doesn't mean the end of her sex life,” says Dr. Kingsberg. “The majority of women in their 70s and 80s want to remain sexually active. Often, the key predictor for having an active sex life as one ages is having an available partner.”
  7. Should sexually active postmenopausal women require a man to use a condom?
    “Absolutely,“ she says. “The issue is no longer protection against pregnancy, but against sexually transmitted disease. Older vaginal tissue is more susceptible to infection. Also, make sure you wash your sex toys.”
  8. What do I do about low libido?
    “The most common sexual problem for women is loss of sexual desire,” Dr. Kingsberg says. “Women want to 'want' – they want their desire back and talking to your doctor is the best thing you can do. Don't suffer in silence. Your gynecologist has many options to help you."

Sheryl Kingsberg, PhD is an expert in human sexuality and Division Chief of Behavioral Medicine at University Hospitals MacDonald Women's Hospital. You can request an appointment with Dr. Kingsberg or any other doctor online.

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